Spirit in every session

woman with dogBecoming consolable

In order to get the help you seek from others, you must allow their help.
Sometimes people arrive at the practitioner’s office hoping to be fixed. After explaining a long list of problems and how no one has been able to “figure it out” yet, they place themselves upon the massage table, wondering if it will work this time.
Practitioners can get caught up in the web of the problem. We pull out all of our tricks and tools and ask for guidance, while we try our best to ease their suffering. Often the result is, “I feel a little better, but it didn’t really work.”

Healing is a cooperative endeavor.

I may have the glass water to offer, but you must receive it.
I may have plenty of flowing Qi to offer, but I cannot force it into anyone else’s system. I am surrounded by fresh air, but only I can breathe it into my lungs.

The first step as a client seeking help, is to become consolable. To be consolable is to be receptive to what is offered. This is not an easy step for those who have been traumatized, misled, or deceived. Many had to learn how to be inconsolable to do what they needed to do alone and single-handedly to survive threatening circumstances. Now here they are, seeking help for their pain.

girl and a dog on a beachSpirit in every session

As holistic practitioners, we must take it upon ourselves to include the state of the Spirit in every session. Without a sincere bow to the Spirit of the other, connection and cooperation will never be established. When a cooperative relationship based on mutual respect is not established, true resolution and transformation that lead to lasting healing cannot be attained.

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Cindy Black

Cindy Black is the Founder of Big Tree School of Natural Healing and the author of Meridian Massage, Pathways to Vitality. She is appreciated for her ability to make the complex accessible, fun, and practical.


  1. Genesis M.Roy, LMT, ISHA on September 11, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Thank You Cindy as usual your articles are always inspirational … My grandmother use to have a saying, “You can take the horse to the water but you can’t make him drink” … being a practitioner always brings a deep yearning to give a person the feel of Joy, Peace and Comfort but throughout the years of my practice which now I am embarking upon 23 years and even within my own self journey “surrendering” to Change or Trusting something NEW or DIFFERENT I know it MUST come from within … It has also been to my surprise when I felt I really didn’t help so and so … months later they return saying wow, your treatment or treatments had a rippling effect in my Life and made me feel so different I wasn’t sure I liked it but NOW I feel so much better I wondered why I tolerated certain things for such a long time … so as a Practitioner I open myself to be the conduit and humble myself to be the servant and move my Ego out of the way … and let it be, however within my Heart always hoping to be the Bridge from Suffering to Healing.

  2. Laraine on July 16, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Thank you for the reminder, I have become frustrated at times because I know that I can help a situation but if the person is not willing then nothing can happen. When learning Kinergetics, we were always taught to ask permission regardless of whether we are working directly on the person or remotely. I have also found that I have to ask permission from the dog I am endevouring to help, once I receive a muscle change then I know all is well to continue. I just have never bowed to the spirit, I like this and will remember in the future to not just ask permission but to bow to the spirit as well.
    As always your are so wise and thank you for sharing with us.

  3. Jill on July 15, 2017 at 7:09 pm

    Lovely, thank you Cindy!

  4. NelenaDawn on July 13, 2017 at 4:36 pm

    I love this perspective, Cindy. As a Healer and wellness coach, I feel that spirit is a key element that is missing from most health/fitness plans which is why I strive to include spiritual practices in my plans. However, if the patient comes in with a non-receptive stance and an attitude of, “This probably won’t work, but I’m desperate enough to try it,” they are generally proved right. I always explain this to my clients and ask that they commit to approach it with openness and receptivity.

  5. Patricia Kelley on July 13, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    So very true. As an Aromatherapist I look at things very holistically. And connection and synergy with the Spiritual is so key. It has been my entire life. Even when I didn’t realize when very young, what was happening.
    Over the years I was attracted to different energy healing modalities, with training/certification/indoctrination in several. I bring that energy into my work, even though I’m not a practicing healer.
    I loved getting my Certification via Aromahead, and experiencing the holistic way of teaching of you and Andrea. Wonderful experience!!
    Healing happens when the emotional, mental, physical and Spiritual aspects are energetically alive in one’s practice….and the recipient can allow connection. Or, purposefully invite the connection because of their own knowing.
    Kudos to your work!

  6. Evelyn on July 13, 2017 at 10:05 am

    It is sooo true, I experienced it myself in te practice. Reverence for the Spirit that came in to get help and feeling that we become one to give help is essential for the energetic alchemy to happen.
    You are a wise and profound healer, that is why I take you as a reference whenever I can. I look up yo you.
    Thank you for all your generosity in sharing.
    Evelyn from Argentina

    • Cindy Black on July 13, 2017 at 10:18 am

      Dear Evelyn,
      Thank you for writing, I appreciate being connected with you.
      Yes, reverence for Spirit opens the gates of alchemy – thank you for putting it so clearly.

      • Vi on July 13, 2017 at 1:06 pm

        the issue is being able to get to the point of being consolable, or what I call trust. As you mentioned, when one has been betrayed, deceived, and hurt–especially from a young age, it is very difficult to learn to trust again and there are no directions for learning how. So even though we can consciously know and want to believe, to trust, it can be extremely difficult to get there.

  7. jorine on July 13, 2017 at 7:22 am

    Thank you!!

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